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Support for adults who commit domestic violence and abuse

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Coronavirus (COVID-19). Some organisations have made some changes to the services they provide so it's easier for you to access support. View latest information about domestic violence and abuse support

Most domestic violence and abuse is perpetrated by men over women although women can also be abusive and abuse can take place in same sex relationships.

Do you:

  • Shout at your partner or ex-partner?
  • Say things you later regret?
  • Hit your partner?
  • Smash things up?
  • Show no respect to your partner?
  • Have a problem with jealousy?

If you're able answer yes to any of the above, it's likely you're abusing your partner or ex-partner.

Are you:

  • Worried your abusive behaviour is escalating?
  • Concerned your children are witnessing arguments frequently? 

Facing up to a problem is the hardest part of the process in embedding positive change but once you have been able to accept that your behaviour is abusive and requires improvement, support is available to help you make positive changes.

COVID-19 can feel scary, but so can your abusive behaviours. Don't take it our on those you love. Here are some services that can help you.

Victim Support - Turning the Spotlight

Turning the Spotlight is a 12-week healthy relationship programme. You can join the programme if you're male, aged over 18, live in Rochdale borough and have had problems within your relationships leading to arguments, conflict, or violence.

Rochdale Connection Trust (RCT)

RCT is currently offering support over the phone to men who are worried about their own behaviour. Support on offer includes safety planning, male awareness and time out strategies. Call 07748943778.

RCT offer a 12 month 'male perpetrator programme', for men wanting to change their lives. The programme explores where your controlling behaviour has evolved from and provides you with strategies and encouragement to alter and improve your situation. You need to self-refer to the programme to demonstrate your commitment to making positive changes.

  • For more information about the male perpetrator programme, call 01706 345 111. You can also call 07748 780 871.

Respect Phoneline

Respect Phoneline is a national, confidential and anonymous helpline for anyone concerned about their violence or abuse towards a partner or ex-partner. A team of skilled professionals can offer advice, information and support to help you stop being violent and abusive to your partner.

Respect is also currently offering a web chat if you'd like to speak to someone online rather than over the phone.


  • In an emergency, dial 999 and ask for help.
  • When you can't talk, dial 999 then press 55 when prompted.
  • For non-emergency police assistance, dial 101 for the Greater Manchester Police Switchboard (24-hour service).

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